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Frankly, I Don’t Want to Talk About It
And, I’m not really sure anybody wants to hear about it. Today I’m doing what I gotta do. Gave my grandson a ride to work and taking care of medical appointments. But, I’m doing it with a heavy heart. Today would be my son’s 51st birthday. It’s been just over a year since he died at age 49. I spent some time texting with his best friend this morning. It was comforting to spend a few minutes with someone who also misses him and it was special to hear from him today. L

Chick Clearview
Jan 30
Spoons
Pete & I rely on Spoon Theory as a handy shortcut with each other for our energy levels & ability to do things. Spoon Theory uses the idea that you start each day with a set amount of spoons. Everything you do costs a spoon. Waking up, eating, getting dressed, bathing, commuting, working, everything costs a spoon. Understanding how many spoons each daily activity costs require introspection & practice, & is highly worth it. All healing requires introspection, even if it's onl
Jen & Pete
Jan 28
It’s a ShitShow
There is so much going on with family right now, I wouldn’t even know where to begin. At this point, I don’t really want to get started on it, because, what the fuck? I really just want to pack up and leave now. Disappear from my life. Now I know I really can’t do that, but it sure sounds good right about now. So, what do I talk about today? I don’t have a lot of healing or growing to share. I’m kind of stuck in this place of inertia dealing with my own physical recover

Chick Clearview
Jan 26


Envy
Jen here. I'm always a little envious of people with strong family ties. I'm amazed at the people who actually enjoy being around their families, and their moms in particular. The best I can say about my relationship with my mom is it's complicated. I don't have a bad relationship with my parents; I have a cautious relationship. I could, & some would say I should, go no contact, but I won't. I am, however, pretty low contact. Having enough physical distance to be inconvenien
Jen & Pete
Jan 23


Strength in Words
Hi there, it's Pete again. I hope everyone is doing well now that the holidays have all ended and everyone's schedules are back to normal. I couldn't really think of anything to write today, so I figured I'd go over a couple of quotes and sayings and stuff that I like. I find these to be rather good. Let's start with the first one. I heard this one from a friend of mine way back in like the late 90s, early 2000s, but it goes like this. "The willow knows what the storm does no
Jen & Pete
Jan 21


Black Sheep of the Family
The other day while listening to my music, a song from the early 80’s came on called the Black Sheep of the Family by John Anderson. Back then, it would have been difficult to tell who was the Black Sheep between me and my brothers. We have all mostly grown up and become responsible adults since then, although my brothers might not totally agree when it comes to me. That’s ok. I like who I am and what I have been and will continue to do with my life. The thought that occu

Chick Clearview
Jan 19


