Standing Ground

Fair warning this was a “crash out.”

Today was one of those days — the kind that makes you pace in front of your garage with music blaring, sleeves rolled up, knowing you’ve got to write it out. First song that hit my ears was Psycho by Puddle of Mudd, and I laughed. Because yeah — this world will drive you there if you let it.

Fair warning: this isn’t for the faint of heart.

Standing Ground

What I took from my day is this: stand your ground firmly. Don’t take shit, and there won’t be shit.

Part of it involved warning a man that another woman was talking about FALSLY reporting him. And here’s where I refuse to tread lightly. Because I’m tired. World-tired. Soul-tired. And someone needs to say what I’m about to say. Not might as well be me anymore — it is me.

Accountability Isn’t One-Sided

Let’s start with women.

Yes, men have done harm. We know this. But women are not innocent bystanders. There are women who have lied, manipulated, made false accusations. Women who have beaten their children, abused, molested, and taken advantage just like men have.

I see you. And I’m done sitting quietly while all the blame gets thrown in one direction.

We carried these men into this world. We raised them. We shaped them. Where is our accountability in the men they grew up to be?

Nurturing is our sacred gift — the ability to give life and to guide it. And yet too often, we allowed harm to continue, excused it, or looked away. That’s not strength. That’s complicity.

Victimhood and Power

Society has been shoving the narrative of victimhood down women’s throats for centuries. Books, programs, classes teaching “once a victim, always a victim.”

No.

If you’re tired of being a victim, what are you doing about it? If you don’t want to be prey, stop acting like prey. We are not deer. We are humans with the capacity to fight, to change, to break cycles.

We know the world we live in. We know what some men are capable of. And yet we keep waiting for them to change, demanding they transform while refusing to see our own role as catalysts. Men should protect, yes — but what happens when their mothers didn’t protect them? When women allowed cycles of harm to continue unchecked?

Enough Is Enough

I recently watched a woman cling to her man’s arm, putting on the same helpless “performance” she’s played for years, false accusing “while her man” made his usual crude comments. I’ve been on the receiving end of the same treatment — but I take it differently.

Because here’s my truth:

I will not comply.

I will not sit idly in a world that cheers when a man says “grab them by the pussy” but shames a woman for saying “grab them by the balls.”

I will not blindly believe a woman. I have seen too many guilty ones.

I’ve seen too much. I’ve lived too much. Enough is enough.

The Point

This isn’t about hating men or woman. It’s not about excusing them either. It’s about saying: women, we have work to do. We have cycles to break. We have accountability to claim.

Change doesn’t happen by waiting for someone else to do it. It happens when we stop playing prey, stop hiding behind victimhood, and start standing in the power we already have.

Because freedom — real freedom — comes with responsibility.

Where This Fits With Clearview Works

At Clearview Works, this is the very heart of what we stand for: accountability, healing, and breaking cycles. We’re not here to sugarcoat or point fingers — we’re here to tell the truth, to build new ways of living, and to remind people of the power they already carry.

Chick, myself, and our team are walking this out loud — in our healing, in our mission, and on the road ahead. This isn’t theory. It’s lived experience, transformed into action.

Because the “Land of the Free” isn’t just a phrase. It’s a call to rise up, do better, and finally take responsibility — for ourselves, for each other, and for the generations yet to come.